Take Responsibility Of Your Life – Because No One Else Will

What does it mean to be responsible for your actions?

Time for a StoryI started working as Help-desk technician in back in 2006. Since our client was a US based MNC I ended up working nights often. Pretty soon I began to hate my working hours.

Even though I did not like working at odd hours, I did nothing to change my present situation. Instead I blamed my dad for not letting me pursue engineering. In truth, as an act of defiance I took a break from college for more than a year and started working in a call center. Later on when things did not work out as planned, I did not want to take responsibility for my decision and found an easy way out by putting the blame on someone else.

Why the Blame Game?

Have you noticed that the people who constantly talk about not being Blame Game - It's Your Fault Not Minehappy with their lifeย would usually have someone else to blame for their current situation. Ironically they are the ones who are “blaming others for not taking responsibility”.

The blame game is seen almost everywhere from politics, government administration, at work and even in our homes. Sometimes itย is a defense mechanism to avoid the pain of admitting that you could have done better. Usuallyย it’s our way of justifying to ourselves & others that we did everything we could do and we failed because of something or someone else.

Take responsibility stop blaming others

What if you happen to be in a situation where your life was in danger because you boarded a cab and the driver was totally wasted?
If you were to meet with an accident, would you blame the driver because he was drunk or would you blame yourself because you did nothing when you found out that he was in no condition to drive.

be proactive and take responsibility for your life

No matter what the current situation is as long as you don’t be proactive and take responsibility for your life,you will find it very difficult push yourself to the limit because in your mind there will always be something or someone stopping your from working at your full potential.

I find it very enriching when I hear the life stories of some of my friends who despite the odds never gave up. One common thing that I’ve observed is that while some of them acknowledge that life wasn’t being fair to them they did not stand in a corner and sulk but worked through some genuine obstacles in their way.

When life is hard and unfair it is easy to go into self destruction mode and undo everything you’ve worked. Assuming responsibility for your actions is key to avoid playing the blame game.

I don’t know what you are going through and may be life seems really hard now but it’s not going to change by blaming others (even though you may be right). Don’t let someone else be the cab driver of your life.

Be proactive and take responsibility for your life your life.

39 thoughts on “Take Responsibility Of Your Life – Because No One Else Will”

  1. This is such an important reminder to everyone. So often we blame people for our problems, but really, we should look into ourselves and see what it is that propel us to take certain actions. I totally agree that our happiness is no-one’s responsibility. We must always be mindful of our thoughts and be sure take positive action. Thanks for this inspirational article!

  2. i totally agree with your statements. don’t blame other people for your inability to make thee necessary changes in your life. no one will help you make the changes you desire. you have to go out there and decide to be a success at what you do. refuse to have an entitlement mentality in life.

  3. A lot of people need to read this article and i 100% agree to what you had to say. Success only comes to those you go out and take it. A lot of people assume everything is going to be handed to them on a silver platter but don’t realise everything you desire can be achieved. Thank you for this post and this should be shared within the community.

    all the best

    Vinnie

  4. Totally agreed! It’s definitely far easier to simply put the blame on others but the right thing to do. But nothing is going to change that way. Basically you are in denial about your own life. If you want something to change you can either make excuses for yourself by telling yourself that you’re situation is inevitable since someone else caused it – or you can actually sit back, think and figure out a way to make it better!

  5. In life we can only worry about what we can control. Its not good to sit around and make excuses for our life instead of taking action to change and better our situations. Complaining does nothing but highlight the problem but we need to come up with plans that highlight the solution and put them to action. Great article!

  6. It reminds me of Rocky Balboa’s quote when he’s telling his son that life isn’t all sunshine and rainbow but if you point fingers at others and be a coward you’ll never have a life.
    Whatever that happens in your life, to be honest, I think it’s just quite pointless and useless to sit and keep blaming others when you should be finding ways to keep moving and keep taking actions to get closer to where you want to be.
    For me it’s more painful to dwell on hating and blaming others for how things are not the way you want to be. It’s more liberating and exciting to just take responsibility and take charge of your own life.

  7. YES everyone needs to read this constantly and remind themselves that one controls all aspects of our life. If we choose to we can do great things but most of us are left making excuses or playing the blame game. We MUST become responsible for our own actions and decisions as they form and shape our future. Loved this article so much it reminded me of all the things I must do in order to succeed!

  8. Hey I resonate 100% with everything you just said. Sometimes I wish certain people would just take responsibilities for their actions and decisions and start making changes in their lives. I am fortunate to be one of the few people who drastically left their day to day jobs and began a life of travel and affiliate marketing! Once you make important and responsible decisions in your life, you will begin to succeed its as simple as that

  9. I heard a song the other day that said something like “wake up in the morning like you’re on a mission”. I really like that.
    You have to take responsibility for where you are in life and make moves to get where you want to be. You can’t expect things to be handed to you or blame other people when things go wrong.
    ‘Getting back on your feet’ throughout life is something you have to do to be successful in life. Letting small things get you down or make you not want to continue is just silly.

  10. This is some extremely useful, motivational and inspiring information! I really didn’t think a lot about all these things. I can now see that i should definitely not blame all my circumstances for my failures. Like Gary Vaynerchuck says, ”You are 100-fucking-% in charge of your own life. Stop fucking bitching”.

  11. I do agree that we have to take personal responsibility for our own lives and hold ourselves accountable for the outcomes, whether good or bad!

    Yep, I too have noticed how people always look for something or somebody else to blame when things go wrong because it’s much easier to put the blame somewhere else instead of on themselves. People should learn to accept their mistakes and use them as learning curves for the future.

    When we avoid the blame game and take responsibility, we can move on from it and on to great things in life.

    Thanks for the inspiring article..
    Neil

  12. My opinion is that blaming others is an insult to our own self-esteem, value and pride. It does nothing to solve problems and instead create a negative environment that nobody can thrive in. It is ok to ask question but the focus should be on the problems instead of individuals. Blaming shows lack of maturity and also takes the power to solve the problem out of our hand.

    1. Hey Kenny,

      I could agree with you more, blaming others is the path of least resistance. You don’t solve the problem by blaming anyone.

  13. I completely agree that it’s so important to be responsible and take accountability for everything that happens in your life. It’s amazing how much of a difference being proactive can do to change your life for the better. This is an important lesson I continue to teach my children so they grow up to be productive citizens who are successful in life and accountable for all their actions. I will share your post with them. Thank you for sharing.

  14. Yeah, I do blame people for many of my problems, but I’m not gonna blame myself for everything either. The lesson at hands seems to be this, stay away from blaming and accusing, even one’s self (because it does lots of self damage and bad for self-esteem), and take action to fix the problems.

  15. I love the message you sending! It is very true. I have been working really hard to take more responsibility for my life and my choices, because they are mine!

    I really liked your analogy of the drunken taxi driver. Great example. I have many friends on Facebook that are always complaining about something. But I never see them posting the things they are doing to make improvements to their situation.

    Thanks for the great read!

  16. Powerful message. I think we all have been there where we think it’s someone else’s fault that this and that happened to us, that we are the way we are.

    Personally, I used to think I am socially awkward because of my parents, the way I was raised, neglected or the physical abuses I experienced. While that may be part of the reason, I finally realize I don’t need them to apologize, nothing changes when I try to hold up to those beliefs.

    Most of families are dysfunctional in a way and mine wasn’t the worse. It’s really when I took matters to hand that I really feel at peace.

    Thanks for this reminder, Josh.

    1. Hey Anh,

      Thanks for sharing your story. It’s very true that when you stop blaming others you truly feel at peace. When you take responsibility and take action you also feel very empowered as well.

  17. Hi Josh,

    I really like your post on taking responsibility of your own action..
    I really love it.. Yeah, you’re right.. Instead of blaming others, or complaining on your situation, just take responsibility and do something about it..

    We have the same passion on helping others as well..
    It’s also my passion to read great books, and listen to great and successful..

    I’m really glad and happy knowing that I have found such kind of people like you..

    Your website is Great.. This is really wonderful..
    And I’m sure you’re gonna be a lot successful in doing what you love..

    Have a Wonderful Day, Josh.. ๐Ÿ™‚
    Cheers,

    Andrian

    P.S. By the way, Josh, just noticed on your About Me page, you haven’t changed yet the “successful.siterubix(dot)com” at the bottom of the page. ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Hey Adrian,

      I appreciate that you took the time out to leave words of encouragement and I am glad that you’ve really like my website. I agree with you that after launching this website, I’ve realized that my thinking is not really that unique and it really resonates with what others think and believe about success and I think it’s awesome that I get to meet like minded individuals such as you.

      Btw, thanks for the feedback, I made changes to the About Me page ๐Ÿ™‚

  18. Hi Josh. This was really refreshing to read my friend. As hard as it is, sometimes…MOST of the time, I need reminding that it’s me who needs to take action or make a decision!
    Yes, I’m definitely guilty of laying blame on other people/places/situations. My Father mostly. By doing so, I’m coming to finally realize that I’m giving that person/situation power over me. I become a powerless victim.
    It’s an ongoing journey and a daily awareness but I’m slowly coming to realize what I can be doing for ME!

    Absolutely inspiring to read your article Josh. Thanks very much! Jamie.

    1. Hey Jamie,

      I am encouraged by the fact that you find the article inspiring and refreshing. When I look back now I realize that I was a complete mess and to think about all the years I wasted staying the same. I think it was partly because I was unwilling to make the changes needed and it was strengthened by the fact that deep down I believed that I was not responsible for all the things that I thought were going wrong in my life and blamed others. From the time I’ve taken responsibility for myself and stopped blaming others I feel empowered to make the changes I need to make to get ahead in life. I wish you all the best in your journey ๐Ÿ™‚

  19. I love that quote: “Be proactive and take responsibility for your life”. This is something that everyone should live by. If you’re jut sitting back waiting for your life to improve or your situation to get better, be prepared for it to stay exactly the same or get worse.

    I can’t get enough of the stories of people in bad situations taking the initiative to make something better of their lives. Always striving to work harder and be a better person. I really respect that approach and dislike the excuses, or as you called it, the “blame game”.

  20. Hey, we have similar background, engineering!
    I have sort of love and hate relationship with my work. I love what I’m doing because it provides greater benefit for the community, but I hate how I should be away from home for close to 12 hours just for work.
    As you said, blaming others is very easy to do, unfortunately it does not solve the problem.
    Only by taking action and moving out from our ‘comfort zone’, we will be in charge in our life and do what we love to do.

  21. Hi Josh,

    Wonderful article. Yes we do live in a blame culture. It is our default way of thinking. However we have power to change.
    You are perfectly right, taking responsibility is key. We are creator of our own reality – good or bad. When we take responsibility, we get back our power to purposefully create our future.

    Jean-Pascal

  22. This is inspiring! Thanks for sharing this post to keep me motivated on what I am doing now. We all need to be responsible to ourselves. No one is going to tell us we can’t do it, we are the ones who determine our destiny.

    It is easy to give yourself an excuse to be in the comfort zone. Complain is an easy job – when we do easy thing, life will hard. If we do it hard, our life will be easy! Stay motivated!

    Thanks!

    1. Hey Alex,

      Thank you for visiting my site and most importantly leaving a comment here. I am really glad that you found this post to be inspiring.

      Keep visiting and I wish you all the best in for what you are doing now.

      Stay Blessed!!!

  23. I absolutely agree with this post – blaming people is never a way forward… especially as that person could be going through just as tough a time as you – maybe they just hide it away for whatever reason.
    On the other hand… I think it’s very important not to blame yourself either!!! The best way is just to accept that what’s happened has happened and look for ways to move forward and out of the situation!! ๐Ÿ™‚
    Thank you for sharing! ๐Ÿ™‚

    1. Hey There ๐Ÿ™‚

      Thank you for visiting my site. You put forth a very valid point; often we are not able see past our own problems.

      “Be kind for everyone’s fighting a battle”. I try to remember this quote as often when dealing with “difficult” people.

      Thanks again for visiting my site and for your insightful comments & observation ๐Ÿ™‚

  24. Such a good reminder. Keep the advice coming… Would love to visit this page whenever I get negative thoughts. Hoping to find a motivational post for every low in life to take me through those negatives… Keep them coming!!!

  25. The title, take responsibility of your life says it all. I learned this when I was having back trouble. When it comes right down to it, the only person that really cares about me and my health is me.

  26. I actually enjoyed not just you’re post but the whole website. I think everybody wants to be successful in life, and many times we do start to blame other people when we don’t achieve what we want to. I think your site have a lot good content that i can totally relate to.

    1. Hey Tony,

      Thanks for dropping by. I am glad you liked the site and you can relate to the my thoughts and experience I’ve shared here ๐Ÿ™‚

  27. Very good advice! Sometimes it can be so easy to blame everyone around us for things that don’t go well. It’s true that sometimes things that happen to us aren’t directly our fault, but we can still control our own actions and how we respond to things.

    Thank you for the great reminder!

    1. Thanks Samantha.

      It is true and a very sad fact that most people are so stuck at “it happened because…” phase that they forget that they can control the outcome by choosing how to act than react to a situation. Reminds me of a quote i read a while back that goes like,

      “You cannot prevent the birds of sorrow from flying over your head, but you can prevent them from building nests in your hair”

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